Today was one of those days where I felt that a lot was accomplished, but was slammed down later in the day. As a mother of an autistic child and toddler twins, I try to balance everything, which is very difficult. Then everything seems to blur together and I didn't do anything constructive with my kids or clean the house, or even brush my teeth (yuck!). I'm in desperate need of some guidance. My husband is not very supportive of my work at home business, because he perceives that I am not paying enough attention to the kids, the house, or him. I knew what being a homemaker entailed, but I NEED to use my brain or I will go crazy. Absolutely crazy!! I never get out of the house. My husband has a lot more flexibility to get out. I do clean the house, but it gets thrashed by kids about a half an hour later. My husband also knows that having children means that I will have priorities other than him but it is still difficult.
So, I am being torn into several different directions all at once. The thing that really stinks is that I am getting REALLY good at my job. I truly think I would be very successful at it. Any of you who know me know that I am a people-person and am very dedicated at whatever I do. My husband pointed out the reason for me staying home from work. Duh. Why though, does it bother him most when HE has to watch the kids? Arg!
If you are reading this and you have a fully supportive and unselfish husband, please tell him how much you appreciate him. Don't get me wrong, my husband works very hard for this family. He just doesn't have much of a feel for calming the kids when they get in a tear. I do this all day long, every day of my life. When I try to gain a smidgen of my independence back or even try to speak with adults on a consistent basis, I get a battle axe thrown at me. So, do I quit 'working' from home and quit something that I get some personal satisfaction at or continue to balance between my needs and the needs of my family and continue the job?
I am open to any suggestions on this matter. It would be a miracle for my husband to read this, so suggest away.
Frustrated,
Leslie
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ReplyDeleteThis is all to familar girly! I have been doing this stay at home mom thing for over 5 years now. I love it and I hate it! There are times that it has its plus and minus... I joke that everyone says "oh thank goodness its Friday!" I laugh because my Friday is the same as my Mon-Sun! Keep up the good work, keep trying and good luck finding the balance. Football season is just around the corner which means I am prepping to be a single mom August to November. If you ever need to talk you can call me anytime! Scot is supportive and helpful at times but sometimes I don't feel supportive enough visually.. maybe there are ways Bobby is being suppportive but you arent recognizing them because the big picture appears to only be the crazy life we lead. Its the little things in the day that continue to keep me going... the laughs, the smiles ect.
ReplyDeleteDavid was always really good about watching Taylor, but remember we only have the 1. One of the first things I did when we could afford it was to hire someone to clean the house at least every other week. It wasn't too expensive and the peace of mind we got from having a deep cleaned house at least 2x month was very calming. We keep it picked up and the housecleaner does the rest. Also, if you have a friend that does housecleaning, it will probably help her out financially too! Win, Win!
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